Having a conversation is something that every living human must do during the course of living. No man can stay without having a conversation with the next man throughout his life. And sometimes, during very sensitive conversations- like conversations with suicidal people or people going through tough times, we run out of things to say and the atmosphere becomes very awkward. How does one deal with that so as not to end up saying the wrong thing? How does one scale through such a situation? What does one say to salvage such a situation and take away the awkwardness? Not to worry, we’ve got you covered. Today, we’ll be telling you things you can say when you find yourself in such a situation.

1. Use open questions
Open questions are questions that do not give room for a yes or no answer. They give people to say more. So when next you’re struggling with what to say, try asking them an open question for them to reveal how they feel. Questions like, “What’s going on for you at the moment?”How are you feeling?” usually help to salvage certain situations when you run out of things to say. It also shows that you care about the person. This style of saving a conversation is not guaranteed to work every time too.

2. Summarize and repeat what the person is saying
It is usually best to let someone know that you really have been paying attention all he has been saying because it goes a long way in making them feel better. One of the ways to do this is to summarize the person’s comment and reflect it. Something like, “It sounds like you really have a lot on your plate and have no idea how to deal with all of it, is that?” should do the trick.

3. Know your limits
You cannot have a solution to everybody’s problem. Neither can you have the ability to pull everyone from whatever situation they are in? In such a situation, you do not need to put yourself under pressure to keep on talking. It is okay to not know how to help certain people sometimes. All you have to do is recommend someone that you think would be able to help them pull through. “You really have me worried now and I want to make sure you have all the support that you need the moment. Please, consider contacting any of the organizations that can help” is usually a very useful thing to say when you don’t know what direction to keep the conversation going or when you feel the depth of the conversation is too much for you, or when the person is suicidal. Remember, it’s okay if you don’t know how to help the person. Just make sure you get the person help elsewhere.

4. Say short words of encouragement
Letting someone know that they are not alone in what they are going through and you care for them will go a long in making them feel better. Telling them that you have heard what they have said and that you have them in your heart can be a magic worker sometimes.

Also, try to build a context around the comment you’re making, so the person feels more assured of what you’re saying and why you are saying it. “Sending you big hugs. You’re stronger than you know and I know you’ll get through this.” is enough to warm a person’s heart and get them to be more confident about themselves.
We hope you find these tips very useful in your conversations with people who are walking on a rail.

In case, you have more suggestions that could be of help, feel free to share them in the comment section for other readers to read and learn.

Just when men think that they have gotten the most knowledge of women, women somehow always come up with new ways to surprise them and leave them astonished. As awesome and relevant as women are to life and mankind, there are some fun facts we have discovered about them and would love to share with you- just for fun.

1. It is believed that the word ‘woman’ was derived from ‘wyfman’ which means the wife of man. The word ‘wyfman’ is a Middle English term which was used to describe women and ‘man’ was used to describe a person. So next time you hear the word woman, say a quick thank you to us for letting you know where the name was gotten from.

2. ‘Maiden’, ‘Mother’ and ‘Crone’ were all terms that were used to describe women at different stages of life. A young girl who was not married was referred to as maiden, a woman with children still in her child-bearing age was referred to as mother and a post past menopause was referred to as crone.

3. As absurd as it sounds and as hard as it is to believe, women are usually excited by the smell of a newborn baby. This excitement can be likened to an addict’s excitement for drugs and the excitement men have at the mention of football or machines. Now, you know why women are quick to say “Oh, my ovaries” whenever they see babies whether in pictures or in real life.

4. Now this one is going to sound very weird, but in the 1600s men used to wear high heels and were the first to wear them. Women only started wearing them in a bid to look more masculine. Today, all over the world, high heels are associated with only women and seeing a man wearing high heels would only make one raise eyebrows.

5. As a woman, it’s best if you do not snore while pregnant. Why? Studies have shown that pregnant women who snore are very likely to give birth to small babies. So when you see a woman with a small baby, you’ll have a possible reason why the baby is small.

6. Have you noticed that men suffer from heart attacks more than women? Want to know why? It is because women have more chances of suffering from indigestion, nausea and shoulder aches more than men. While men are more prone to heart attacks, women are prone to indigestion, nausea and shoulder aches.

7. This one doesn’t need even any scientific proof as it is very obvious and is not even debatable- Women cry more than men. On average, men cry between 6 and 17 times a year, while women cry between 30 and 64 times a year. We wonder why men find it difficult to cry.

8. According to studies, women speak more than men. Women speak about 20,000 words a day which is even 13,000 words more than the average man. What activity do you think gives women the avenue to speak more words than men?

We bet you found most of these facts on women interesting and funny. However, there are still some facts we have probably failed to mention above. Kindly do well to point them out in the comment section for other readers to see and react.

Almost everyone has an interest in growing long natural hair is real but sometimes, some people usually do not get the desired hair growth they want- their hairs appear to stop growing after a while. If after measuring your hair, it is still the same length as the last time you measured it (a couple of weeks before), we are displeased to tell you that your hair is suffering from stunted growth.

Chill! Before you start panicking and coming up with assumptions on why you’re experiencing stunted hair growth, there are a plethora of reasons why your hair may have stopped growing and also a myriad of ways to tackle and solve the issue of stunted hair growth. Not to worry, we are going to be bringing all of that to your knowledge in the subsequent paragraphs; it is why we are here for you.

Dirty Hair
Sometimes, why your hair stops growing is because your scalp is being suffocated by oil and dirt, giving very little breathing space to the scalp for the good of the hair follicles. It is advisable that you carry out deep cleaning on your hair at least once a week to get off any dirt that may be making its way to your scalp to block the pores and prevent the hair follicles from being healthy and functional.

Lack of Exercise and Healthy Diet
As absurd as it sounds, eating and exercising right actually help the hair grow healthily. Always drink enough water to avoid getting dehydrated and eat foods that are rich in omega-3s like fish and nuts. The importance of these to hair growth cannot be overemphasized and so, it is only right that you pay very close attention to them.

Lack of Protein or Too Much Protein
Depending on the situation, protein treatments can either be good or bad for your hair. Protein treatment can make your hair soft helping it to hold on to moisture and can also make your hair hard, making it break off easily, so it is important to always balance protein treatment with water-based treatments.
Do not jump into protein treatments because it is working for your neighbour. Both of you may not have the same hair type and so, your hair may not react to the treatment the same way your neighbours did. Monitor your hair while on protein treatment so as to know when to cut down or increase the treatment.

Styling and Maintenance
Harsh styling of the hair and treatment can also result in stunted hair. Avoid using styles that require excessive heating or tightening of the hair as they make the hair dry and are very unfavourable to the hair follicles.
Also, it is best to sleep with a silk or satin scarf or pillowcase to avoid your hair from getting broken. Pillowcases made from cotton and polyester usually dry out the hair and moving your head on it has more chances of making you snag your hair.

Wrong Regimen
Most times, people do not buy products that suit their hair types. If you have oily hair, avoid shampoos and hair products that are for dry hair. Always read the labels on products and make sure they suit you perfectly before buying.

Now that we have shared what we know about stunted hair growth, we are sure that some of our readers have experiences and suggestions that they would love to share with other readers. Feel free to take to the comment section to share your suggestions.

Hello Readers, where did 2018 go? Oh my! It went faster than I thought it would. So many of us had set 2018 goals at the beginning of that year. When the year got to an end, we took stock of those goals. I am very sure that true happiness was derived when our goals were achieved.
Great Kudos to those that achieved their goals, to others who achieved some, well done. I fall in this set too… Lol. There are some that didn’t achieve their goals. Well, the truth is 2019 is a new year and you can work towards those goals. Now, to those who didn’t even set a goal, urrghhh! The fact that you… yes YOU… are reading this article is a BIG SIGN that you want to evaluate yourself and set those goals. So, thumbs up to you.
Come with me, as I discuss several important factors to consider in effective goal setting. Honestly, these factors are pertinent to me but I think we could benefit from them. Read them, study them and let me know in the comment section if you feel it is helpful.
1. Set Realistic Goals: Ensure that unrealistic goals are weeded out. The adage “cut your coat according to your size” is the summary of this point. This is not procrastination or lack of a “can do” attitude. Your goals should be within the availability of what is attainable for you. Goals are easily achieved when they are realistic. This will make you not see yourself as a failure. When you set unrealistic goals, you struggle to achieve them because they are way beyond you or your resources. I have learned through experience to set goals that are realistic. Has it helped me? Of course!

2. Set Specific Goals: Most people set goals that are imprecise, which is not right. Being specific with goals enables you to easily determine when they have been achieved. Ambiguous goals lead to confusion because you won’t be able to determine the right steps to take in other to achieve them. For example; I plan to save more this year. This is not specific. The question here is; How much do you plan to save each month? The right way of setting this goal is; I plan to put in #5000 of my savings in my savings account each month. This will give you a measurable target of what you should be saving, and any month you fail to stick with this, you already know there is a drift in your goal. Specific goals are means of checks and balances in goal setting and should be adhered to.

3. Prioritize Your Goals: After properly identifying your goals, ensuring they are realistic and specific, it is important to “build up a scale of preference” in other to know which one comes first and next. This is called PRIORITIZING. The truth is, you cannot achieve all the goals at once. A Chinese adage says “A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step”. Break your goals into smaller steps and go for the one that comes first. This makes the goal setting task not to be difficult. When you take the first goal in accordance with the priority, it helps reduce anxiety. Also, you are able to evaluate how far you have gone, which will guide you on the next step(s) to take. This does not mean being slow, but there is wisdom in focus and avoiding divided attention.

4. Identify Obstacles: This entails thinking out of the box. You have to properly scrutinize your goals and consider other factors that are capable of hindering the achievement. So many years ago, my mum had a goal of getting a diploma in Catering and Hotel Management. She knew that school run and babysitting would affect this goal, so she got a baby sitter who would stay with us while she goes to school. Towards the end, her goal was achieved and she made good grades.

5. Take Action: After setting your goals properly, it is important to “DO IT”. Now let’s do a little reverse. Remember those words that say you have to be motivated before you start something. This is my take on those words. I feel in Goal Setting; you need to Take Action first. When you do this, you will start feeling motivated to do more. It is similar to building a house; when you start laying the foundation and putting the first brick, you will have the motivation to complete it. So, no matter what your goal is, just do it! Start from somewhere, don’t hesitate.

6. Flexibility: When you are too rigid, you might not be able to achieve some goals. It is important to be flexible. Flexibility does not mean not sticking to your goals, it means being open-minded to come up with an alternative plan when the already set plans have been distorted. For Example; Monday evenings have already been set aside for running, unfortunately, it rained, obviously, you cannot go for a run under the rain, but an indoor exercise can be used as an alternative. Sometimes things can get in a way of accomplishing your goals, so always be open-minded to an alternative plan for the expected result.
By setting goals, developing plans, working to fulfil them and evaluating the process, you will be more likely to succeed in achieving those goals. Goal setting aids in creating the life you want. I hope that this article will bring us to a good start this year, enable us to set and achieve our goals.
Feel free to leave your comments below.

Healthy living refers to the steps and actions put into place to ensure and achieve optimum health. It involves taking responsibility for your health in order to ensure that you stay healthy for the future.

Healthy they say, is wealth. In this article, we would give you some tips on how to diet in order to ensure that you stay healthy.

Food is a basic necessity for living things. We need food to grow and maintain a healthy body. Healthy living through dieting can be achieved by eating the proper food and ensuring a healthy body regimen.

Here are some tips on dieting that can promote healthy living.

  1. Always ensure that 3 meals are taken every day (breakfast, lunch, and dinner). It is important to note to note that the last food for the day doesn’t necessarily have to be that with the largest quantity. Rather than eating more at night, eat more in the morning as breakfast Ensure that breakfast, which is the most important meal of the day is taken when due. If you must skip any meal, ensure that you do not skip your breakfast.
  2. Eat more fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and fat-free or low-fat milk products.
  3. Take less red meat. Eat more of eggs, fish, poultry, beans, and nuts.
  4. Avoid eating too much. Eat only the amount of food that can satisfy your hunger.
  5. Be moderate when consuming snacks and junks. Instead, take more of fruits and nuts to satisfy your hunger and prevent you from gaining excessive weight.
  6. Do not each too much before bedtime. Ensure that heavy foods are not taken after 6pm. This will help reduce weight gain and gastroesophageal reflux.
  7. Desist from the constant consumption of sugary snacks because calories in such snacks could make you hungrier and increase your food consumption which is not ideal for healthy living.
  8. Avoid taking fried or oily foods often.
  9. Ensure that foods are properly cooked. Do not consume undercooked meat or any kind of food. Proper cooking of food destroys harmful bacteria that may be contained therein.
  10. If you must eat fruits and vegetables, ensure that they are washed properly with clean water.

Finally, always consult a doctor/ medical practitioner if you are finding it difficult to control your food intake.

We always get questions every time we write about Natural Hair. We have received several private messages from those who are thinking about going natural or who want to do the big chop (cutting off all of their chemically straightened hair). We say, go for it! It’s a great way to familiarize yourself with your roots…literally, the roots of your hair and the amazing texture that it sprouts. But it’s easy to get discouraged from taking that leap when the natural hair community has such a strong fixation with long natural hair.
We have highlighted some styles you can rock depending on how low your hair is.

 

Just get a low cut and wear your hair ultra-short. This is a brave move but it can look absolutely stunning! You can even give it an attitude with a side part.

 

 

Accessorize with metal headbands and chains or just rubber Alice band for that calculated look.

Use a head wrap to add a lil somethin’ to your little curls. Sometimes, less is more

 

Go Bantu!!! Consider going to a professional stylist to get it done if you want to make sure that each knot is even. As you can see, this isn’t just a way to get a great twist out overnight; it’s a fun, edgy look that looks great when you wear it out, too!

 

 

Rock some flat twists on one side or both sides of your head and leave the rest of your hair loose or coiled.

 

Do you have very short natural hair? How do you like to style you hair? Are you thinking about going natural or getting the big chop? Tell us in the comments!

We cant wait to hear from you.

 

 

Traction alopecia is a type of hair loss caused by a constant pulling of the hair. It is most commonly seen in women who wear weaves, tight braids and hair extensions, tight scarfs (Turban) but also occurs in those who consistently wear their hair pulled back tightly from their scalp. Traction alopecia can also be the result of excessive or harsh brushing and/or backcombing.

Traction alopecia is usually initially seen on the front hairline and also on the perimeters i.e edges, where most tension is exerted. However, over time the recession can move further as new hairs are put under strain. This can cause significant loss of hair around the hairline. Traction from tight hairstyles can also result in breakage along the temples which makes the management of hair much more difficult. If you tie your hair up with tight rubber bands, the bands may exert more tension on the hair and create cracks along the cuticle, eventually resulting to hair breakage.

At first, traction alopecia from hair extensions, braids, weaves and tight hairstyles is reversible; you can stop wearing hairstyles that exert tension on the hairline and your hair will grow back. However, over time irreversible damage can be done if the hair starts to grow back and is pulled out again and again. This happens because the constant pulling of the hair eventually distorts and atrophies the follicle. This eventually weakens the growth of the hair, and cause your hair to grow back finer and shorter. In severe instances, the follicle can become permanently scarred so that hair is not able to grow at all.

How can this be treated;

The Swedish Aromatherapy Treatment – This is a treatment used to invigorate your scalp, it opens up the pulse and stimulates the blood flow on your scalp, and it also helps to enhance hair growth. For Severe cases Ginger Anti- hair loss treatment is advised.

 

To know more about this treatment,

Visit Plot 305A, Jide Oki Street, off Ligali Ayorinde, Victoria Island Lagos.

Or call 07038321653 for further enquiries.

 

Ever heard the saying ‘Fashion can be bought, Style….one must possess? Well, that pretty much summarizes everything about style.

Style is a reflection of your person and what better way to express yourself than to be stylish.help you through this Journey. We will be here every day, bringing you great style tips, answering all your style questions and taking you through an incredible style journey.

If you have questions on grooming, beauty, fashion and many more, we are right here for you….always.

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